ndelphinus
ndelphinus:

harrypotterconfessions:

She was the person who knew him best, I think she should have understood what he was going through and at least forgiven him for what he said, even if they were never close again. She was supposed to be this good forgiving person, but the one person who needed her forgiveness the most she denied it to. I find that cruel.

No.  Bullshit.  Lily is not responsible for Snape’s happiness.  She is not responsible for his redemption.  She is not responsible for him at all.
I love Snape, I really do.  He’s my favourite character, I’ve thought he was awesome since the first book.  I even don’t particularly like Lily based on what we saw of her in the books.  That doesn’t matter.
It is not cruel to choose not to forgive someone.  No one is entitled to forgiveness from those they’ve hurt.  It doesn’t matter if you were friends before, it doesn’t matter how sorry you are, it doesn’t matter how much you may want or need it.  Forgiveness is not about the person who did the damage.  It’s about the person who was harmed.
Lily didn’t have to forgive Snape.  To be entirely honest, I’m not sure I would have in her place.  It hurts when someone you thought you could trust calls you a slur.  Some people would find getting into a physical fight easier to handle and forgive.  Lily not feeling she could get past it doesn’t make her cruel, it makes her a member of an oppressed group whose best friend of about a decade called her the worst name possible.

ndelphinus:

harrypotterconfessions:

She was the person who knew him best, I think she should have understood what he was going through and at least forgiven him for what he said, even if they were never close again. She was supposed to be this good forgiving person, but the one person who needed her forgiveness the most she denied it to. I find that cruel.

No.  Bullshit.  Lily is not responsible for Snape’s happiness.  She is not responsible for his redemption.  She is not responsible for him at all.

I love Snape, I really do.  He’s my favourite character, I’ve thought he was awesome since the first book.  I even don’t particularly like Lily based on what we saw of her in the books.  That doesn’t matter.

It is not cruel to choose not to forgive someone.  No one is entitled to forgiveness from those they’ve hurt.  It doesn’t matter if you were friends before, it doesn’t matter how sorry you are, it doesn’t matter how much you may want or need it.  Forgiveness is not about the person who did the damage.  It’s about the person who was harmed.

Lily didn’t have to forgive Snape.  To be entirely honest, I’m not sure I would have in her place.  It hurts when someone you thought you could trust calls you a slur.  Some people would find getting into a physical fight easier to handle and forgive.  Lily not feeling she could get past it doesn’t make her cruel, it makes her a member of an oppressed group whose best friend of about a decade called her the worst name possible.

melissaanelli

melissaanelli:

We were discussing homosexuality because of an allusion to it in the book we were reading, and several boys made comments such as, “That’s disgusting.” We got into the debate and eventually a boy admitted that he was terrified/disgusted when he was once sharing a taxi and the other male passenger made a pass at him.


The lightbulb went off. “Oh,” I said. “I get it. See, you are afraid, because for the first time in your life you have found yourself a victim of unwanted sexual advances by someone who has the physical ability to use force against you.” The boy nodded and shuddered visibly.

“But,” I continued. “As a woman, you learn to live with that from the time you are fourteen, and it never stops. We live with that fear every day of our lives. Every man walking through the parking garage the same time you are is either just a harmless stranger or a potential rapist. Every time.”

The girls in the room nodded, agreeing. The boys seemed genuinely shocked. 

“So think about that the next time you hit on a girl. Maybe, like you in the taxi, she doesn’t actually want you to.”Because this needs to be said until it never has to be said again.

For those in my twitter and Tumblr feed new to him, you should really read Andrew Sullivan daily. You will learn about the world and laugh and see a lot of different viewpoints, and look at what it means to be someone of truly self-questioning intellectualism (which is the only kind that really works).